Relationships Bound by Gravity.
I thought I would share this little thing I wrote a little while ago... It is a parallel between the dance and the real world, and that is why I love dance so much so let’s see if any of this hits home? I can't wait to see you all at one of my seminars, lectures and or workshops. Now remember... you are all exactly where you are meant to be in this part of your life. Don't fight it. Embrace it and open your mind and learn.
The Rules of Engagement.
When trying to create a new paradigm for the dance couple, you must delve a little deeper to see what the relationship is like. When a relationship is in a certain way or the couple has been 'being' in a certain way for such a long time, they will mirror their behaviour of the relationship on the dance floor. To counteract, alter and create a new way of dancing with each other, or to even improve what they have, you must first go to the source of the behavior and understand what they think and feel about each other.
This is a very delicate and touchy situation to get yourself into and out of. You must only do this if you absolutely know, understand and have had training of some kind in this area. The man will become a better leader if he can allow the lady to simply to move herself around the floor under her own power. The lady will follow and be able to dance so much more freely, if she simply allows herself to continue moving in a certain direction without doubting her conviction, or worrying about what it is she must do. This, of course is easier said than done. The couple will spend many years getting to know each other on the dance floor before their dancing can get anywhere.
This is quite sad for both their dancing and their relationship because gravity does not lie. If we only had something like gravity governing our rules of engagement in day to day communications then there would be a lot less sadness and turmoil in real life relationships. The minute you dance with someone and make a move that is simply one millimeter out, the law of gravity throws you both off balance and thus you have to use force and muscle strength in an attempt not to fall off balance completely. Therefore to complete one full dance without falling off balance, or even feeling a slight bit of tension, both the man and woman have to work extra hard to allow the other to exist and perform their role. If one of the partners interferes and tries to take even one percent of the workload from the other, the dance partnership becomes strained and begins to deteriorate from that point.
The question is can the same be said for real life relationships?
